What if I didn’t care?
Those five words put together into a question: Those could be some of the most powerful in your life. They’ve begun to sink in with me and it’s been a serious game-changer.
“I will feel so gross in my bathing suit and people will totally judge me,” was the script looping around in my head as I weighed the pros and cons about going poolside.
“But what if I didn’t care?” I rebutted. Really, though. I made myself answer that question. If I didn’t care, here’s what might happen:
- I might actually get TO the pool area.
- I might even get INTO the pool and cool off between replying to emails and reading.
- I might get into the pool, cool off, and realize that it’s really, really FUN.
- I might pay much less attention to other people who I thought might initially judge me. And then I might realize that if they DO judge me, it has more to do with them than me.
- I might then wonder, hey, what kinds of bodies of water have I been staying away from all of this time??
(SIDE NOTE: Had I not gone to the pool that day, I wouldn't have run into an old friend who I'd gone to high school with in Hong Kong, who also happened to be my freshman roommate at Northwestern, who moved to Italy right after graduation, whom I had not seen since 2002!! WHAT?! All because I jumped off the deep end and wore a bikini!)
So: What if, next time you caught yourself saying something not-nice to yourself, you asked the question, "But what if I didn't care?"...